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Loving and learning

Life is all about learning. Understanding a little about this process, and how we as individuals learn, can be beneficial.

Learning can be seen as a cycle, comprising four stages: planning, doing, reviewing and concluding. This cycle can be entered at any of the four stages. Some of us may find we prefer to plan first, others may enjoying learning on the job and others may wish to first reflect on what they've seen others do.

So how does this apply to love? In order for a relationship to grow stronger the bonds between both people must grow and develop; therefore learning how to love each other better is of obvious benefit.

In a healthy relationship communication provides a good means of reviewing, ensuring you're loving your partner in a way that's catalysing the growth of the relationship. The communication is essential and, if any breakdown occurs, the relationship may grind to a halt like an unoiled machine. Being honest about your feelings and not hiding any nuances may be key.

“Sing like no one's listening, love like you've never been hurt, dance like nobody's watching, and live like its heaven on earth.”

- Mark Twain & Peggy Yen

After spending 30 months in a relationship, I've spent the last four months reviewing and reflecting - it's been valuable.

An overview of the learning cycle (aimed at university lecturers) can be found here.

Revelations

Over the past 23.9 years I've accumulated some knowledge which may be worth sharing. I'm sure a lot of this is very obvious to you, but I hope you'll find something of use!

• A break from the screen to look around the room for a minute every 10-15 minutes is beneficial.
• Wearing a back pack on both shoulders may make you look like a tourist, but it's worth it.
• Drink plenty of water - it's good for your kidneys and teeth.
• Floss every day.
• Don't eat tuna more than twice a week.
• Be honest - 9 times out of 10 it makes life a LOT simpler.
• You are not invincible, bones are breakable.
• Some lucky people are gifted with natural talent. For those who aren't, determination can more than up for it.
• Don't panic. Beet-root may make your poo turn red. It's normal.
• Love means putting someone else first continuously.
• Wear sun tan lotion.
• Don't be afraid to ask questions.
• Try something new every now and then.
• Don't let emotion overtake logic - but don't forget your feelings.
• If your pees very yellow, drink more water.
• Be careful of STDs and accidental pregnancies - no glove, no love. 
• We all make mistakes, learn from them and move on. If you keep thinking about the mistakes you've made, you'll make more.
• Don't be afraid to show your feelings, especially towards your family. A hug never did any harm.

So, what's new, Pussycat?

• I've jumped into a job with Lehman Brothers as a Junior Java Developer.
• I'm single (sigh).
• I've moved to London.
• I'm now a Mac-user.
• I'm in love with the iPhone.
• I'm using WordPress for nyte.co.uk.
• I have a sudden liking for Harry Potter.
• My fondness of Canada is not so strong.
• My fondness of the East has increased ten fold.
• I love Dim Sum.
• My hair is currently 4 inches long, spiked and still growing. I really need a haircut ...

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year (soon)!

Uploaded a few new photos, among them some from Alan, Dan, Gordon, James and I's trips to Video Games Live: a concert sporting live music from video games, such as Halo, Final Fantasy and the likes. All good fun!

A very merry new year to you all ^.^

British Telecom PLC

Wow. I am an employed person. With responsibilities.

Managed to upload a few photos from the 'induction' event, which was great fun - lots of funky people.

This weekend, attending a 'Video Games Live' event.

Next weekend, the world [insert evil laugh]. Oh, no, wait... ^.^

Crocodile Dundee saves granny

Good old Crocodile Dundee!